You’re Not a Burden

“Bear one another’s burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ.”  Galatians 6:2

The other day I was talking with an acquaintance about the shared experience of adoption, and we were talking about how both of us involved other people in providing for the adoption of our children.  We loved the fact that people we cared about were able to be a part of our children’s stories.  We also found it interesting that while other cultures in the world embrace the idea of eliciting the help of others, our western culture is less inclined to ask for help.  Maybe it’s a pride thing.  We don’t want to admit that we can’t do it on our own.  Maybe it harkens back to the “American Dream” mentality of our ancestors.  Pull up your bootstraps and get it done because nobody’s going to do it for you.  Maybe it goes back even further than that to the founding of our nation.  We don’t need another country telling us what to do.  We want to be independent.  Whatever the reason, the simple fact is that we don’t like to ask for help.  We don’t want to burden someone else with our problems.  But this thinking is flawed.

Your life journey was not meant to be a solo effort.  Why else would God have created people with different skill sets, different personalities, and different passions?  We are made to live in community, and the purpose of this community is to come together to build one another up.  To help each other out according to the strengths that we have been given.  By not asking for help, you are actually denying another individual the opportunity to help.  We think it is selfish to ask for help, but I’ll say that it is selfish not to ask for help.  Who are you to deny another person the opportunity to use their God-given gifts in service?

Trying to better your personal health, especially when it comes to weight loss, is often a very personal struggle.  Most don’t readily open up to just anyone about their hang-ups.  But it is very difficult to stick with a journey that is this challenging if you do it alone.  You need someone to keep you accountable when the temptation to slack off comes (because it will).  You need someone to share the pain of exercise with (it is much more tolerable that way).  You need someone to talk to who will encourage you when you feel like giving up.  I know that there are people in your life that want to help you.  Don’t be afraid to ask.  They are going to bless your life, and what you might not realize is that you are going to be a blessing to them in the process, not a burden.

J